Getting In the Mood for a Good, Satisfying Sex
Having a good and satisfying sex is like building a sandcastle or a house of cards. It’s easier said than done. Although, many might disagree, but it is what it is, sure, having sex is very easy, but a satisfying and good sex is another story to tell. Without proper preparation and understanding, achieving it is like world peace, a very tough feat and close to impossible to achieve.
But by simply following the steps below, achieving a good and satisfying lovemaking might not be as hard as getting World Peace.
1. Building Anticipation. It’s like having a weekend picnic or an out of town trip, we anticipate the possible and positive things we can do and will do. Thinking ahead and planning give you a result of the joy it might bring. It’s the same with sexual intimacy. Think ahead about when you’ll make love later.
Making things happen in your head is the first step. It creates urge and excitement. Think about the attractiveness of your partner, the kiss, the foreplay, the deed, the joy of becoming physically one flesh and the climax. It’s like writing your own story, let your imagination dictate the pace of the lovemaking. Let the anticipation build and your body will respond by feeling more ready when the moment arrives.
2. Removing Distractions. Based on a study, Female brains are typically able to juggle more balls than a circus act. Women have so much else going on in their lives and around the house that asking for them to focus on sex is like asking the juggler to toss a single ball. It is part of a Women’s life but it won’t help them to relax and enjoy the pleasure of sex with their partner unless focus is achieved.
It goes the same with men, although, compared to women, men can easily focus when it comes to sex, but distractions is always present, sports, work, car, motorcycles, hobby and the list goes on and on. Putting an extra effort to remove distractions should be practiced in order to achieve the call. Getting the kids to bed early, straightening up the bedroom, putting away the to-do list, etc. Whatever that needs to be done should be put down to get into the act.
3. Preparing Location. Like the old business saying goes, Location is everything, atmosphere and ambience matters. Imagine yourself on a date and upon entering a restaurant, instinctively, we get an immediate feel what will be the outcome of the date based on the surroundings. Likewise, creating the right mood in lovemaking can be achieved by preparing the location. Creating the right ambience and mood might mean refurbishing the bedroom or adding enhancers like candlelight and music or anything that you can think of that will add fuel to the fire. It might not be as complicated as previously stated. It could even be a simple as getting the toys out of the bedroom.
4. Awakening the Sexual senses. The five senses are sight, smell, hearing, touch, and taste. Although, sexual intimacy might include all the senses, it is particularly focused on sight and touch. Stimulating those two will be very helpful in setting the right mood. Lighting a scented candle or turn on a sexual intimacy playlist or take a bubble bath or replace the regular sheets with satin ones or bring chocolate-covered strawberries or champagne into the bedroom. Think of things that are not specifically sexual, but rather sensual. Find ways to awaken the senses.
5. Asking for affection. Women often need more affectionate foreplay before feeling ready to make love. Women prefer a “step by step process” in lovemaking. But, problem is, with some Men, out of horniness, they tend to jump straight to step 5 without even touching their partner’s hands. Also, some women just want to get over it by simply lying down and spreading their legs and let the partner do the deed. Be quick and let’s jump back to bed attitude.
Ask for the affection needed. Explain that getting in the mood might need to spend some time in touching, kissing, snuggling or getting a massage. Ten to fifteen minutes of that might find someone very eager to make love even when they didn’t think they’re were in the mood before.
6. Communication. Two things to remember (9 out 10 Males); First, Most men loves to turn their partners on and Second, most men cannot read a woman's mind.
Telling your partner what feels good is always best. The use of words, moans, shrieks, body movements, anything, communicate clearly what you enjoy in the bedroom. It can be very awkward at first things like, “Over here is better” or “I love it when you ”. In time, it passes and most partners are receptive to positively-phrased suggestions.
7. Paying Attention. Whatever preparations you have done before, paying attention to what’s happening in the moment is always the key. Once you come together with your partner, think about what’s happening to your body and to his/her body. You can open your eyes and watch your bodies melding or gaze at his/her facial expressions. Or you can close your eyes and focus on the nerves of your skin as they awaken with the touch of your partner. Hone in on your erogenous zones and focus your mental energy on their arousal.
There is a danger of the mind might wander off, if the mind starts to wander off, just bring it back on the mood at hand. You might need to do this a few times before your mind is fully engaged. But do your best to give that time of sexual intimacy your full, undivided attention.
To end, it all boils down to commitment. I if both are committed in achieving the ultimate goal together with the tips given, achieving sexual nirvana is easy. However, if the other is not committed, regardless of how these steps are prepared excellently, everything will be put to waste. Remember, it takes two to tango.
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